Gamophopia

Disclaimer:

This blog post is a fictional spoof, satire, pure fiction, just for fun and humor, no offence is meant to anyone, so take it with a pinch of salt and have a laugh.

What is gamophopia????

gamophopia means it is the fear of marriage. Or fear of giving commitment.

Were in" 2024"  but still we are not aware of what is good & what is bad in our lives

We crave for getting loved by person or by family in that process we lost our self and step in wrong decisions or toxic. relationship  even some people get married  due to family pressure.

 but they have their insecurity  & living unhappily and getting divorce. Is it the way to live the life.

We get only one life & commitment means standing on a word were actions get proved not words that we say.

So  I don't want to give u a lot of "gyaan" 😅😅😅

Let us step into character our characters

ERUM &  ARYAN & SURAZ

Let us discuss about ERUM.

Erum is a girl who comes from the traditional family & have family believes & respect towards everyone.but she is too protective & giving personality some times she get tensed a lot

But erum has a wishes that she need to explore everything in life . She plans what she wants &what to do to achieve in life 

As a kid she is so smart that she cleared her jee mains & got placed in(IIT BOMBAY)

as data science student.

She concur everything upto the second year of his education.

HOW ERAM FELL IN TO TOXIC RELATIONSHIP?

As an iit aspirant erum is a smart girl she attend the seminars in college & met with 

A senior boy in college called suraz.

By helping erum in the projects & meeting

Daily for coffee  & some times group outings.

We people carve for love like that erum think that suraz care & text his conversation is true in mobile . So she proposed him & every thing went well into for 10 months but suddenly suraz needs to left the college as he completed his education.

Erum has increased more feelings on suraz due to physical intimacy & his care 

As  suraz  joined  corporate his true colours come out .

He is dating multiple girls at a time & meeting erum when he is free.

Erum has blind trust that he only loves her

But erum seen suraz with group of people where they says another girl as girlfriend.

Suddenly erum gets broken & asked suraz to clarify about it ?

Suraz tells erum that  he is not into  serious relationship with her & he need his life to choose better .

"Here i cannot say suraz has cheated it's his choice to be with her or not"

 

TIP TO CHOOSE A GOOD RELATIONSHIP

we humans became more desperate about  feelings. We doesn't even think of why the opposite person is approaching? or  why we need to approach.

Choose what you need a relationship or just causal flings.

Let us discuss deeply regarding what is what 

1.Dating

Dating is the process of intentionally spending time with someone to get to know them better, have fun together, and enjoy being romantic. Dating can sometimes be about seeing if there's potential for a more long-term relationship, or it can just be about having fun without expectations for the future, which is sometimes called casual dating.

2.Committed relationship

In the context of couples, the phrase "in a relationship" usually means being in a committed, long-term romantic relationship. A committed relationship is one where two or more people agree to continue being in a relationship for the foreseeable future. There's an understanding that the two will continue to spend time together, work on growing their relationship with each other, and continue nurturing their connection. People in committed relationships may choose to use identifiers like boyfriend, girlfriend, or partner to signify their relationship to others.

In traditional monogamous relationships, being in a relationship also means that a couple will be romantically and sexually exclusive—that is, they won't have any other romantic or sexual partners other than each other. In nonmonogamous relationships, exclusivity isn't required.

Marriage is one form of committed relationship wherein a couple publicly vows to stay together and forms a legally binding union.

3. The Caregiver

This person is always there with a shoulder to cry on or a bowl of soup when you’re sick. They derive joy from nurturing and ensuring their partner’s well-being.

But hey, caregiving is not a one-gender role; anyone can step up to the plate. The trick is not to get so absorbed in caring that you forget about your own needs

4. The Provider

The one who’s got the financial logistics on lock. While traditionally this role was skewed toward men, times are changing, and anyone can be the breadwinner.

Providers bring stability and security to the relationship. But watch out, providers—don’t let money become the only language you speak in love.

5. The Listener

This one’s an emotional genius, absorbing what you say like a sponge.

They give you the space to vent and feel understood. Listeners are essential for healthy communication in any relationship. Just remember, listeners need a listening ear too.

 6.The peace keeper

Some one knows how to dial down arguments and diffuse tension. When a fight is about to erupt, they’re the negotiators who step into calm things down 

Much more are there i cannot express in this blog.

Let us step into character of erum

What is the impact on erum after breakup

Erum has a major heart breakdown

She thinks that everybody is same & she curse herself of being a realtionship with suraz as days passed erum went through sleepless nights & susudical thoughts everything. But one day erum explain everything to her dad .

His dad listens carefully & explain that 

Life is all about experience some is good & some is bad. Some is good at short term some is good at long time. We need to choose our choice what we need to do.

 Erum got moved on with her  father words.

Entry of Aaryan

As Erum passed from college she went to corporate & working as data scientist.

In that she meet "Aryan" & daily talks are going on & helping eachother in works& transportation & sharing lunch meeting out for dinners . Everything is going well

Let me describe the character of Aryan

Aryan is a good guy with good looks & having modern mind mentality  with family etiquette

He is more into socialising & finding new things .

like that he got to know how to be with people & how to choose what is good for him

He is more mature about what he needs in life

The best part of him is pateintce & respect towards people

He know how to handle things with good manner

How erum& Aryan fell towards eachother

As days was passing, Aryan liked the personality & confidence of erum in work 

& Following the beliefs.

But he knows her bad side also that she is protective & more into giving personality ,

And he handles her mood swings very well

Because he observed erum personality & he got into the conclusion she is not faking with her behaviour & actions

Due to this things he liked he decided that both were settled in good position & families also know eachother so he  decided to ask for marriage.

He taken erum outside as trip&  proposed for getting married

Listen listen?

Does erum accepted for marriage? What about her fear towards getting into commitment ?

So as Aryan proposed the sudden fear of getting into commitment spiked erum & asked why he needs to get married?

& Asked  why we need to be together.

She keep her fear of questions towards Aryan & went home. Talked with her father

Conversation between erum and her dad'

Erum explain to her dad about Aryan proposal and she explained her feared to her dad  about commitment.

Her dad asked a question ⁉️ that

 is really Aryan a good person?

Erum :yes

Did he really takes care of you?

Erum: yes

Did he guard you & motivate you ?

Erum :he protects me & helps me

Did he financially settled?

Erum: yes dad

Last but not least is he loyal to you? & Did he say about his past , meet with his family?

Erum: yes dad he is loyal he take care of me alot & i love. His mother she is a real motivation to me in tough times were I have a space to discuss what ever i need to know but she never judged me .

Father : well beta what should I need to tell

Even if I look for a boy I can't get this much good. He is there for you in tough times he carry you everywhere . He introduced to everyone he knows . You love his parents why are u getting scared.

All you need is a family to live & partnership if you are getting in good 

Accept it

Erum reply to aryan

 With her father conclusion erum got clarity towards Aryan & they both discussed their flaws & goods before getting married & th

1They decided not to fake after getting married.

 2what ever they have complaint they need to discuss & clear it & she keep a "note" 

3That personals need to be with in them slefs & couldn't to be shared to others &

4Not to get involved third person in their conversation.

Aryan accepted everything they decided to get married 

Aryan & erum get married have 3 children & successfully  reached their 60s,

Conclusion of hamza

We humans carve for love

1 never get into relationship with a mind that you are desperate

2 observe different kind of people who is in love

3 see their goods & bads

4 learn how to clear the problems

5 clear about what you require is it love or fling or casual relationship in starting

6 be concious about your self feelings will make you weaker 

7 never express your love or feelings on the wrong person

8 be patience for a while good will come

9 prefer socialising than sitting in home

10 Focus on your goals  coz  money is everything

11 never depends on anything in realtionship let both earn 

12 be vocal about what you feel towards eachother

13 cutt ofc mobile chats

14 meet in real & know the person there is chances that we know person in real

15 last  but not least don't be toxicif you feel it it's your set them free .they will come back if they geniunely want you.

Don't get hurt without sharing to opposite person what you feel for them this leads to 

Heart breaks

So guys this is the story of my erum 

For every heartbreak   or toxic relationship don't think that it is the end 

Good things are there forward waiting for us

May Every girl gets a Aryan in life & grow together.